By Shoshana Jackson
Is there such a thing as a second chance at love?
Many people would ask themselves this very question after a break up. You may wonder if you should get back together or are you better off apart.
Love doesn’t always work out the way we want. The person you fall in love with today, may not be the right person for you at that moment in your life. That’s why sometimes a relationship doesn’t work out the first time.
For some couples, the second chance at love comes after a break up. The time you spend apart from your ex, may be just what both of you need to decide that you want to be together.
How do you know when you should get back together with your ex? Before you ask yourself this question, you should answer these:
1. Are you doing this for the right reasons?
Do you want a second chance at love with your ex because your lonely, can't find someone else to date or because you miss him and don't want to let go. While these may seem like good reasons, they’re not the right reasons to reunite as a couple. They also won’t be enough to hold your new relationship together. If you both love each other and are ready to work on building a healthy relationship, then you should get back together.
2. Is this something you both want?
Just because you’ve decided you should get back together, doesn’t mean your ex wants to. He may have moved on with his life or be in a new relationship. If he doesn’t want a second chance at love with you, don’t try to force it. If you push your ex into a relationship thathe doesn’t want, you’re starting off with an unhealthy relationship.
3. Are you ready to accept that your ex may have changed…or not changed?
While you’re in a relationship, you come to accept some of the flaws and quirks of your partner. You’ve seen them at their best and worst. Don’t think that your partner will be the same person if you get back together. Also, don’t believe that in the time you were apart he may have gotten rid of some of his bad habits. Are you willing to accept your partner as he is today, not who he was or who you want him to be?
Should you get back together with your ex?
A second chance at love means a chance to start a new relationship with your ex. This is not a continuation of your old relationship, although you may need to deal with some of those past relationship issues.
In the beginning that may mean you’ll have more work than you would in a completely new relationship. However, after you work through the past problems, you’re in a relationship with someone you already know. Although it may take time to get used to any changes, you’ll come to enjoy learning new things about your new boyfriend.
Comment/Discussion Question: Have you ever gotten a second chance at love? Do know if you should get back together with your ex? Leave a comment below.
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