After a Break Up – Do You Want Him Back?

By Shoshana Jackson

After a break up, he may want you, but do you want him back?

After a break up you have two choices. Get back your ex or get on with your life.

Do you really want him back? This is an important question and something you’re going to need to think about. After all, winning him back is possible, but do you really want him back in your life.

While there are many reasons couples get back together, you need to ask if your partner and your relationship reserve a second chance. Here are three types of relationships, you’re better off without:

Toxic Relationships or Relationships with Toxic People

Was your relationship a constant source of stress, pain and heartache? If you weren’t treated well by your partner, criticized, put down or abused by your partner, don’t think things will change if you give him a second chance.

Many times people will return to a toxic relationship in the hopes that their partner will treat them better, which rarely happens. Do you want him back if he’s going to treat you badly?  You deserve a relationship with a person who will love and respect you. Don’t try to get back together with someone who treated you poorly.

You Weren’t Really Into Him… You Settled and Weren’t Happy

It’s no fun being alone. Sometimes you may find someone nice who really cares about you and you decide to start a relationship with them. After all, sometimes having somebody is better than nobody. In other words you weren’t into him, you settled.

Settling is not always a bad thing; in fact there are many successful relationships that start that way. However, if you were not happy in that relationship, ask yourself if you want him back so that you won’t be alone. If that’s the reason, you would be keeping both of you from finding love with someone else.

You Never Really Had a Relationship… He Was Just Dating You

Men don’t like to be alone either. So they will date women that they know they would never want to have a relationship with. First you would need to ask yourself if the relationship was real, or do you believe you had a relationship because it was implied.

Even if a man takes you out every night for a month, it doesn’t mean you’re anything more than a date. A relationship begins when you both agree that you are a couple. When this ends if will feel like a break up because you are emotionally invested, but to him he just stopped dating you. Do you really want him back, when he doesn’t want you.

Now there are many other reasons not to get back with your ex, just as there are many reasons to try. In the end, you’ll need to follow your heart, while listening to your intuition. Make sure what you’re feeling is real and not based on sentimentality.  Make sure you’re not motivated be fear, loneliness or other people’s opinions.

Before you make your decision, take some time to heal. It’s hard to decide if you want him back while your emotions are still raw from your break up. While you’re healing your hear and dealing with your emotions, you’ll be in a better place to make the decision that‘s right for you.

Comment/Discussion Question: Have you gone through a break up with your boyfriend. Have you decided that you want him back or want to move on? If you’ve gone through this in your life, how did you come to your decision? Leave a comment below.

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