Practical Advice for Surviving a Breakup

By Shoshana Jackson

A relationship begins when two people come together. Through mutual attraction, shared interests and common goals, eventually it grows roots and blossoms into commitment.

This blooming in your relationship can last for months or years and during that time you are content with your partner.

Love is the foundation of a relationship. It's essential for the bond that's needed to keep a man and a
woman together.


If love is there most couples can go through most of their life together without complaint. However, although love is a fundamental part of your relationship, sometimes it's not enough to keep a couple together. That's why many relationships end. That's why a break up is hard to do. Even though the relationship is ending, many times the love is still there.

There are a few reasons why relationships end, but it's usually one of the following or a variation of these: distrust, infidelity, loss of love or differences.




Breaking up with someone is hard. However, being the person who was broken up with is even harder. It's not easy to survive a breakup, it can be a tough task, but like many other women before, you will pull through. Remember a breakup is not the end of your world or your life, it is a new beginning.

There are no set rules on what you need to do to survive a breakup. But these are a few things that can help you fully recover and eventually move onto a new relationship with a man that's right for you.

1. Accept that it is over. This is crucial because if you don't accept that you're not together you will never be able to move on. Don't pretend that this is temporary or that you'll get back together any day now. You need to acknowledge that there is no longer a commitment between the two of you. He will go on with his life and you need to go on with yours.

2. Let it go. It's only natural to think about the life you and your partner had together. After all you may still feel some love for him. But you need to focus on your healing and getting on with your life. As long as your attention is on the past you'll find it hard to focus on your future. Let go of the love that's keeping you attached to him, if not you'll be stuck in a one-sided relationship, and those never work.

3. Get out and get busy. Don't spend your day focused on your feelings. It's easy to spend your whole day thinking about the breakup, the past or what you're going through, but that's not going to help you survive your breakup. Get out and do things that you enjoy. Get your mind off your breakup. Get out with friends. Visit family. Take up a new hobby or rediscover one that you once loved. Just don't do things that remind you of your ex.

4. Show love for yourself. You need to focus all of your energy on loving yourself. Your level of self-love and self-esteem will determine how successful your next relationship will be. After a breakup you need to learn to love yourself more that you did before. The more your love yourself, the less you will feel the need to jump into your next relationship. You'll be better able to wait for the right man and you'll find that this new more confident, lovable you will be more attractive to the type of men you want to meet.

Comment/Discussion Questions: What advice would you give to someone going through a breakup? What are some ways to show love for yourself as you survive your break up. Leave a comment below.

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